🌍 “ My Child Seems Fine... But Are They Really Okay After the Move?”
Why practical language and integration coaching matters for expat kids in Groningen
If you’ve recently moved to the Netherlands with your family, there’s a lot on your plate – finding housing, getting settled, learning the language, enrolling in school. Your child may seem to be doing “fine” on the outside – attending class, picking up some Dutch words, making a few friends. But as someone who works closely with internationally mobile children, I want to gently ask:
🧠 Is "fine" the full story? Or could there be deeper adjustments your child is navigating silently?
As a former Third Culture Kid (TCK) myself, I know what it’s like to move countries as a child – to feel the need to adapt quickly and stay cheerful, even when overwhelmed inside. The reality is, many expat kids carry a hidden layer of stress, confusion, and emotional fatigue – especially during the first months after a move.
Here’s what I’ve seen, both through research and lived experience:
✈️ Relocation Affects More Than Just Logistics
For children, moving isn’t just about schools or houses – it’s about leaving behind their whole world: friendships, routines, even their sense of self. Even when they seem to bounce back quickly, many children bottle up their worries to avoid "making things harder" for their parents.
This might show up as:
- Stomachaches, sleep issues, or regression
- Mood swings or emotional withdrawal
- School reluctance or challenges making new friends
- Acting "too perfect" or never complaining
🛫 TCKs Often Struggle with Belonging
TCKs grow up between cultures. They may speak several languages, understand multiple customs, and adapt well – yet still wonder:
“Where do I truly belong?”
“Will I have to leave again soon?”
That sense of "in-betweenness" can leave children feeling ungrounded, anxious, or unsure of their place in the world – even if they can't find the words to explain it.
💬 Why Language Coaching Needs to Go Deeper
Many families search for Dutch language tutoring to help their child integrate. That’s a great start. But what if we paired language learning with practical support that also reduces emotional stress?
At Safe Haven Dutch Coaching, I offer more than vocabulary lessons. I provide practical, structured coaching that supports both Dutch language development and daily integration – helping children feel safe, confident, and connected in their new surroundings.
This is not therapy. I’m not a psychologist or licensed counselor. But what I can offer is:
💡 What Makes Safe Haven Different?
- 🧠 Child-centered, trauma-informed coaching – I understand how transition stress affects children and adapt my sessions to meet them where they are.
- 🖊️ Emotional expression through language – I practice vocabulary with children that helps them name their feelings, ask for help, and navigate school or social situations with more confidence.
- 🏡 Rituals of belonging – From cultural traditions to small grounding routines, I help children build a sense of "home" wherever they are.
- 👤 Partnership with parents – I keep you in the loop, and can offer practical insights into what your child may be experiencing – without judgment or pressure.
- 🔒 Clear ethical boundaries – I’m a language and integration coach. If I notice signs of emotional distress that go beyond my scope, I have referral protocols in place to connect families with appropriate professionals.
❤️ You’re Doing Better Than You Think
If you’re reading this, you’re already a thoughtful, caring parent. You want to give your child the best chance to thrive here in the Netherlands. And I’m here to walk with you.
At Safe Haven, I focus on more than just grammar and pronunciation. I offer a soft landing – a practical, heart-centered approach to help your child adjust, belong, and grow.
For a gentle way to explore emotions together, try my Feelings Check-in tool. If you're settling into Groningen, my Integration Checklist can help you track key steps.
📩 Curious about how I work or want to book a friendly intake session? Reach out any time. I’d love to hear your story.